the covers of four nonbinary memoirs

8 Great Memoirs Written By Non-Binary Authors

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It’s always a pleasure to see more and more books written by genderqueer and non-binary authors! Over the years I’ve definitely seen more of their books in the wild, especially in SFF. Despite that, their stories are still a little hard to find, to be honest. This list was not as easy to compile as I would have liked. Nonetheless, those stories are out there, and they are absolutely worth getting into the hands of more readers. And with any luck, the number of books written by non-binary authors will only increase from now on. So yes, you must have guessed that today I am talking about books written by non-binary authors. But not just any books. We’ll take a left onto nonfiction avenue and talk specifically about briefs by non-binary authors.

Why memoirs? Because they are tender and sincere. Because they are relevant and powerful. Nothing like reading a memoir and opening your eyes to another person’s experiences. To sympathize with them and see you in their thoughts. To explore your own identity and sense of self through their words. Memoirs are among the most honest pieces of literature you will read. And while memoirs by non-binary authors are hard to find, they most certainly exist.

So without further ado, let’s talk about eight beautiful memoirs written by non-binary authors!

Great memoirs from non-binary authors

Gender queer by Maia Kobabe

This is probably the best-known memoir on this list, especially since it was banned nationwide in 2021. Maia Kobabe wrote and illustrated her graphic memoirs in order to explain to her family what it means to be non-binary and asexual. Some of the things we explore in Gender Queer include their journey of self-identity – from coming out in high school to doing it again as non-binary years later. It also touches on the classic angst of teenage crushes, the gender dysphoria experienced during pap smears, and their connection to gay fan fiction.

Dear Senthuran book cover

Dear Senthuran: A Black Spirit Memoir by Akwaeke Emezi

Akwaeke Emezi is best known for his fiction, but reading his memoir is an absolute must! Especially since Dear Senthuran is a memoir written in words. They are aimed at friends, lovers and family of Emezi and touch on the topics of success, identity, spirituality and mental health. He also talks about what it means to be an Ogbanje, as well as how Akwaeke sees himself and how he experiences the world around him.

Cover of In Their Place: Navigating Non-Binary Life

In Their Place: Navigating Non-Binary Life by Jamie Windust

Comes next In their shoes, a book that oscillates between memoirs and a collection of essays. This book is packed with Windust’s anecdotes and thoughts on being non-binary and navigating the world with a non-cishet identity. They particularly focus on their youth – and one of the things he points out is that there’s no one way to be non-binary. It still retains a universal nature that makes it all easily relatable.

A graphic of the cover of Sissy: A Coming-of Gender Story by Jacob Tobia

Sissy: A Gender Crossing Story by Jacob Tobia

Jacob writes their gender odyssey in sissy – of their Methodist childhood at Duke University and even in the White House. The book specifically follows their childhood, when Jacob had to deal with the expectations of being “masculine”. At the same time, it makes you question the stereotypes of a binary gender, and invites you to rethink gender as a whole. Their style is playful, irreverent and honest, making for a raw yet fun read.

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The Child’s Birth Mother: A Memoir of Nonbinary Parenthood by Krys Malcolm Belc

This is a very special memoir written by a non-binary author as it focuses on the topic of parenthood. It is also told through essays and even contains images to go along with Belc’s story. The natural mother of the child explores the relationship between parenthood and gender through her own experience as a transmasculine parent from the birth of her son Samson. Everything comes together to create a record of the life of Krys Malcolm Belc.

cover of All the Boys Are Not Blue

Not All Boys Are Blue by George M. Johnson

Not all boys are blue is a memoir told through personal essays in which journalist and activist George M. Johnson explores their childhood. This includes their experiences of bullying and sexual relationships. As well as their relationship with their family members. The book is aimed at young adults and places Johnson in the position of a mentor as they speak directly to the reader. Overall, it’s wonderful writing that makes you question themes like gender identity, consent, black joy, and toxic masculinity.

A graphic of the cover of Dirty River: A Queer Femme of Color Dreaming Her Way Home by Leah Lakshmi Piepzna-Samarasinha

Dirty River: A queer woman of color dreaming of going home by Leah Lakshmi Piepzna-Samarasinha

Leah Lakshmi is a criminally underrated poet and writer. Their memoirs are told in a non-linear order. It explores the “dirty river” of their past as she “also dreams of returning home”. dirty river is primarily their coming-of-age story as a disabled queer woman of color. In particular, it explores their abusive childhood, which led Leah Lakshmi to flee to Canada in 1996. There, she discovered a whole new world full of anarchopunk queer love and revolution.

Like a Boy But Not a Boy cover by Andrea Bennett

Like a Boy But Not a Boy: Navigating Life, Mental Health and Parenting Outside the Gender Binary by Andrea Bennett

Finally, the beautiful memoirs of Andrea Bennet finally come. It is told through 14 essays that explore mental illness, creativity, mortality, faith, gender binary, and parenthood, among other topics. In the end, it’s all about acceptance. Both of others and of ourselves. The icing on the cake is that these essays are mixed with interviews from other queer millennials who also tell you their life stories, making for a unique and intimate reading experience.


Looking for more LGBTQ+ reading? Visit our archives to find all kinds of book content! You can also check out amazing graphic memoirs from trans authors, or a list of great non-binary and genderqueer writers.

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